Infidelity is self care, apparently

Publicado el 25 dic 2020
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  • I share the same sentiment on Christmas... Its a sad time of year for me 😭

  • I bet that cosmo also has a ton of articles about how to leave your boyfriend if he cheats on you bloody hypocrites.

  • Maybe I'm like, weird, but since when is sex such a vital necessity that you'll cheat? It seems like these people are sex addicts?

  • This is not self-care, this is just stupid! So basically in their theory or whatever you want to call it, if it makes you feel good it's "self-care". I want to slap stupid people on a regular basis and that would make me feel better, can I call that self-care?

  • Self care is meditating and doing your nails. Not cheating on your SO. It seems to me that all of the shit that goes into maintaining an affair is the exact opposite of self care. All the lying and hiding.... No thanks. Way too much work for me. I'll take my self care routine of books, music, meditation, hot baths and wine over that. Sound like too much anxiety.

  • Selfish care is what it is

  • the mental gymnastics applied by these people deserves an Olympic medal

  • Holy shit, so putting a dent in your integrity is considered self-care? Way to rationalize selfish, garbage human behavior Cosmo.....but what could you really expect?

  • Feel unfulfilled in your relationship? Then have the courage to face up to it and either work on it with your partner or break up.

  • this is not self-care, its self sabotage

  • And screw all the hair dressers that are being safe and sanitizing everything

  • The way that they are trying so hard to out a positive spin on cheating on your spouse...

  • This reminds me of how selfish humans can be. People are already suffering from mental health conditions escalating, this can only add to that. If you're on Ashley Madison, then get out of your monogamous relationship and call cheating what it is. CHEATING!

  • Hey, hi,’re gross. This whole thing is just ew.

    • Like why can’t you do those things and put the effort into oh I don’t know, the person you married.

  • Holy shit no, this is absolutely toxic (another overused buzzword, but its exactly what it is) can you believe cosmo used to be a respectable publication? I have some old 1900’s copies of cosmopolitan and it’s absolutely nothing like what it is now. Its a trip to read what it used to be about. This is just sad. Its literally encouraging people to cheat. Unbelievable.

  • Cosmo is delusional period! And you all are correct lean deer!🙄 Why are there so many people out there that think the world is their oyster and all morality goes out the door??

  • These type of magazines or sites or whatever are for people who have some sort of problem with talking openly to their partner. For people who think that the other person should magically understand all kinds of feelings they havent told their partner about

  • I think sometimes people confuse “self care” with “self destruction”.

  • So if destroying someone is self care it's okay to be a cheating piece of human garbage? Welcome to 2021.

  • "Its nice to have something consistant that you can still enjoy" Magazine woman: extra-marital affair Me: on sale bulk jasmine tea

  • "This know also, that in the last days perilous times shall come. For men shall be lovers of their own selves, covetous, boasters, proud, blasphemers, disobedient to parents, unthankful, unholy, without natural affection, trucebreakers, false accusers, incontinent, fierce, despisers of those that are good, traitors, heady, highminded, lovers of pleasures more than lovers of God; Having a form of godliness, but denying the power thereof: from such turn away. For of this sort are they which creep into houses, and lead captive silly women laden with sins, led away with divers lusts, ever learning, and never able to come to the knowledge of the truth." ~2 Timothy 3:1-7

  • It was sweet how you showed concern for them not observing social distancing and how it could affect other people but I don't think these human shaped turds care about anyone but themselves.

  • Ew I’m not watching bc I don’t want to get triggered but this is like actually evil wtf I’m terrified of unfaithful people I actually have a phobia and I’m not tryna be funny lol

  • Honestly serial cheaters tend to exhibit the same characteristics. And not in a good way.

  • I detest when people use the term “gaslighting” incorrectly 😒

  • Your make up is cute girl 😍

  • Deep down I feel like the people who cheat know it's wrong and they're desperately trying to cling to any excuse or explanation to remove the guilt they feel from their shoulders, thus, the mental gymnastics we see here.

  • And I guess Cosmo would call stealing “permanent borrowing” for the sake of self care. For piss sakes. 🙄

  • All of the points which are intended to validate this opinion could be applied to a faithful relationship. The infidelity is not justified by any of the points listed, and in fact the reasons stated only serve to make the author look increasingly worse, compounded one on top of another.

  • BREAKING NEWS!: This just in: Cheaters cheat because it makes them, only them, feel good. Wow, that’s journalism. Somebody was paid money for that. I might actually have to make a channel here soon. Why do people get married if they do not care about their partner?

  • It isn't self-care. It's selfish.

  • This is the worst thing I’ve heard today, like WTF IS THIS??

  • this reminds me of a tiktok i saw where some dude was talking ab how he lost his virginity during quarantine and has 6 partners during A GLOBAL PANDEMIC

  • Have these women never heard of a vibrator??

  • The person who cheats during a pandemic mainly for the orgasms lol If you can't give yourself a satisfying number of mind blowing orgasms you might wanna step up your game there. Seriously. I can't imagine being dependent on other people and putting myself and others into shit situations for mere physical pleasure.

  • Cheating has to do with dishonesty. Having sex with someone outside your relationship is only cheating if it's behind your partner's back.

  • I don’t get it!! If you’re at the point where you can comfortably and consistently talk to media outlets about how and why you cheat on your partner 1. You need to WOMAN UP and break up with your partner and 2. You need to immediately go to fucking therapy and figure out why you have normalized manipulating people so easily

  • Thats like saying that, drinking alcohol is self care 🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️

  • I've been feeling really bad about myself. Then I found meth, now I'm a lot happier. If you'll excuse me I need to steal all my parents valuables so i afford more meth.

  • What a gross article...

  • you have a dog ????

  • Even if it was "self care", there's still AN ENTIRE ASS PANDEMIC AND YOU'RE GONNA FUCK!?!?

  • "Cheating is a crime" -Takayan

  • The problem I have with Ashley Madison is that it promotes and fetishizes having affairs behind your unaware partner’s back. That is the kind of thing which destroys lives. Infidelity is a leading motive in suicide and murder statistics. Divorces are rarely painless, and are arguably hardest on any children that are unfairly involved. Knowing that, it’s just plain unethical, _immoral_ to recklessly sell the fuse to ignite that bomb. Let’s face it; if you want to cheat, you can do it on Tinder. You can do it without the internet at all. Ashley Madison is capitalizing on something that is considered wrong for a reason.

  • i’ll never understand how people find it so easy to cheat, i’d rather die than do that to my partner and i know he feels the same, it’s awful and i could never do that to someone who i love so much and who loves me too

  • My sole deflated with yours I love you’re video but really hate this article yuck and I agree with everything you said

  • I remeber thinking that self care and having a good mental state means ignoring depression and now I know that was very wrong

  • Cosmo is garbage. Truly sad We live in a world FULL of ignorance..

  • In so many of these cases the partners could've just sat down and TALKED to each other about their needs/mental state. If they can't even do that, the relationship is done. They should just break up, then leap for that other person.

  • Some people learn the term "self care" and haven't shut the fuck up since

  • Can you imagine going out, having an affair, bringing home Covid to your family... more like I don't care, rather than self care.

  • ... Coconut oil? No no no.

  • has anyone else had problems with youtube unsubscribing them from this channel? this is my second or third time resubsribing smh. i feel you tho my depression hit a lot harder during the holidays. hope everyone has a better 2021!!

  • self care in this case would be talking with your partner why youre not fulfilled in the relationship, and how you guys can fix it, not cheating lol

  • Huh. The 3 very misunderstood terms in this video are exactly what I've actually had to deal with - was cheated on for 4 years, he kept it hidden from me through intense (ACTUAL) gaslighting of me, and 2 years later I still struggle with (ACTUAL) self-care because of the resulting damage and worsened PTSD from the experience and emotional abuse. I still can't fathom even approaching dating again, much less any level of trust. But hey, I survived 2020 and Cosmo wrote this piece of s***.

  • I kind of hate that you had to explain that cheating is not good, but I guess that’s where we are now in society. :(

  • Their minds go through more gymnastics than ever Olympic gymnastics team combined and time a hundred

  • Ah yes, something else for me to rage about today

  • why... do people cheat?? i don’t understand why it’s so hard to just to love the one you love. if you don’t love them, it’s better to let go of them. it’s not just your loved ones you’re hurting, it’s you as well.

  • You know , there's nothing wrong with first wave feminism, but all this toxic feminism after that, makes me laugh because everything that was complained about negative male behavior they now exhibit themselves. It's disgusting. The nuclear monogamous relationship is the backbone of civilization, just a fact and the more it's attacked, the more a culture crumbles.

    • I'd also like to add, if it was a male trying to justify this action, everyone would be up in arms...

  • My self-care is playing a game on my phone or studying.

  • "Sex is synonymous with self care" Stares in asexual

  • I also just want to mention that it's still terrible to sleep with a married or partnered person (who is not in an open relationship) even if you are single. Like it should be obvious, but I keep coming across this

  • These people are insane and selfish. Talk to your partner if there's something not fullfilling you. Ffs! This is just embarassing.

  • I have never seen you laugh, first time I have seen your top teeth and it looked like you were happy and that was nice to see. I hope I see you happy more often. I do not expect you to laugh through your stories. But like you did in the beginning of this vid. Show us how you put on your press on nails just for fun.

  • Self care is ending an unfulfilling relationship and moving on with your life

  • This article was written by peoples exes and soon to be exes lol

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  • My husband told me his emotional affair partner was his “cousin”! And told me to be friends with her on FB because she wanted to see pics of our family! And then I found out he had a secret hidden second phone! They sent over 200 messages to each other in a two month period! We live in Vegas this so called cousin was in Mexico. It’s been 3 months exactly since I found out. I still want to rip his head off. I’m glad I took the step of contacting Greatermind Hacker. He got all the proof I needed from his iphone call logs, emails, text messages both deleted texts and also social media chats; whatsApp , Facebook, Instagram, as far back as 2 years without having access to his phone. He does all sorts of hacking, giving you 100% Spy access to your target’s device. Greatermindhacker is genuine, He's available 24HOURS. Just Call OR Text +16194310306 and On WhatsApp +12626837511. Contact him for closure greatermindhacker AT ...Narcissists don't stop. I don’t know what to do.

  • Selfishness is the correct term. You could say drug use is self care, or giving into your anger and hitting someone, avoiding responsibility can also be "self care".

  • I have never understood women who look good and do things for men? I workout and take care of myself for myself! My friends dad always said I "dressed for the guys", but I always dress for myself. I don't understand the concept of looking good for someone else.

  • Self care isnt something that makes you feel good or even happy. This is like when I'd argue that doing drugs was good for my depression. Same cursed energy

  • "Sex is synonymous with self care" maybe to you but y'all really have the possibility to talk with your partner for sex

  • If you don't want to be in a monogamous relationship don't, I don't get why people can't just be in open relationships. I'm in an open relationship currently and we're both happy doing whatever and being honest with each other. There are ways to have the "dating/sexting/sleeping with someone married" taboo without hurting other people.

  • ...Cosmpolitan really is testing my patience. The fact they’re trying to say “ITS OKAY TO CHEAT UWU” makes me wanna find who ever wrote this and YELL and SCOLD them. Like what the fuck

  • Next edition of cosmo is going to be encouraging people to bang dope since apparently self care is now whatever not only feels good but hurts others around you. holy fuck. Did Shallon Lester start writing for cosmo??

  • Self care is a spa day, not infidelity!!

  • 84% of people haven't grown up and use the most pathetic attempts of avoiding personal responsibility.

  • ah yes I punch people for self care because the endorphins~ what? they get hurt? _pfft who cares, I'm the one that matters, don't tell me what to do_

  • i could claim that being racist towards others is self care, but that doesn’t make it any more ok to do

  • If you’re in a relationship and feel that mentally you need to take care of yourself by sleeping with other people you don’t need to be in that relationship. Take care of yourself by leaving that person and going to the effort to find your own happiness.

  • cheating aside you are seeing people during a pandemic that is wrong and not care on its own

  • Imagine not talking things out like adults and instead risking you and your family’s life just for sex.

  • Let’s be real here. Unless there’s some specific, abusive circumstance someone is in, and even then I’m still biased on the whole ‘cheating’ aspect, there should be no reason to commit said action. If you know yourself to fall for people easily, if you know yourself to like more than one person at the same time, why would you even bother with a monogamous relationship? Don’t commit to one person if you know it will be difficult for you. And cause the other pain. Work on a polyamorous one. As she said as well, poly relationships have their own rules. But it still constitutes as having more than one person in your relationship.

  • Self-care that actually hurts the relationship if the partner finds out?huh?

  • My contempt for this world has definitely exacerbated during this pandemic. Like I was never a narcissistic person, but this increasingly spread egocentrism and narcissism that makes people think this type of things ('I'm here to thrive - at the expense of someone', 'I put myself first') makes ME want to do my ultimate selfish fantasy, that is simply shooting myself in the face with a note that says: YOU DIDN'T DESERVE ME, BITCHES

  • F*** Cosmopolitan. Cosmo condones cheating in this article but in another article earlier this year it's all about "29 ways to find out if your partner is cheating on you".

  • i find it so ridiculous that people would rather look good for someone they're going to cheat with instead of the person that's committed to them. like wouldn't you want a man to be in love with you and be turned on by you? cus apparently all these cheaters only care about the sexual aspect. i'm so glad my boyfriend will never have to deal with this with me cus he's enough for me.

  • Pop on a face mask man. Don’t be playing with peoples feelings.

  • you really hit the nail on the head. people really prefer to 'escape' and find someone new and exciting to fulfill them, rather than just having an uncomfortable conversation with their long-term partner/spouse. I could NEVA!

  • It's even more messed up when you think about their partner. They are probably having a hard time and then you do this. This is even worse and it's awful. Because maybe they feel like shit and then they find out this then they feel more shitty. This is selfish and disgusting.

  • Cosmo will tell you cheating is “self care.” I wonder if GQ would ever do that and what the reaction would be if they did.

  • So basically, the people filling out the polls saw the “self care” option as a scapegoat for the selfish shit they were pulling.

  • Hey queen, where’d you get those earrings? They’re so pretty!!!

  • So now I just have to re-term sleeping in past my alarm as "mind exploration", then tell my employer they're condoning psychological abuse if they disagree.

  • “You keep using that word. I do not think it means what you think it means.”

  • Self care and mental illness is trendy and that bothers me

  • Man 2020 really is the worse year, covid is nothing to me cuz you just wear a simple mask. Also you stay in doors, stay 6 feet apart, and avoid contact with others. That's like my whole life style before covid-19 🤷🏻‍♀️ so can't complain. But to use those words "self-care" as to cheat? Give others who are taking this whole year like shit a break, man. This ain't cool or being truthful, it's just disrespectful.

  • Nope. Definitely an excuse for cheating. 💯% Cheating. If open relationship mmm ok but that between two ppl who do it with others and not ONE of them. But to say that's self-care pfft don't make me laugh 😂😂

  • Selfish and inconsiderate.